OT: Where can I meet a female companion with similar interests and personality /in person/?

[Michael Fisher]

Maybe this can close this off-topic thread. Here is a geek free dating
service.
http://www.plentyoffish.com/?dating=1freqani&gclid=CJaHrpu_7JwCFVhh2godJDz1kg

<http://www.plentyoffish.com/?dating=1freqani&gclid=CJaHrpu_7JwCFVhh2godJDz1kg>

On Sat, Sep 12, 2009 at 11:33 AM, Ben Wong <lists.openmoko.org at wongs.net>wrote:

> Hello Brolin,
>
> Wow.  That's quite a bit of information.
>
> I have many thoughts about your specific endeavours, moving out,
> priority inversion, social anxiety, finding a geek girl, but I think
> there may be a broader, more important goal that you're missing.  It
> occurs to me that you may find it helpful to learn moderation and
> appreciation of imperfection.  Western culture doesn't have a long
> tradition of doing that, so I recommend studying Eastern philosophies.
>  Particularly, Buddhism, wabisabi, and mindfulness meditation.
>
> Mindfulness meditation is the art of focusing one's mind on what is
> actually present now and letting go of thoughts.  For example, try
> sitting still and just paying attention to the sensations in your
> body, such as your breath going in and out, without thinking, without
> judging.  It's a lot harder than it sounds, but it is a skill that can
> be learned, and it can be valuable for people like us who can get lost
> in our "head-space".
>
> --Ben
>
>
> On Thu, Sep 10, 2009 at 1:12 PM, Brolin Empey <brolin at brolin.be> wrote:
> > Hello list,
> >
> > Like most of the members of this list (AFAICT from the first names I
> > recognise as sex/gender-specific), I am male.  I am 22 and still live
> with
> > my parents.  I have never lived away from my parents.  I am planning to
> hire
> > a support worker to help me live away from my parents (I have another
> > meeting later today) because I continue to indefinitely defer trying to
> live
> > away from my parents.  I named my form of procrastination “priority
> > inversion” because what is, in practical terms, my lowest priority,
> becomes
> > my highest priority.  For example, I choose to spend my free time playing
> > with my computers, including my FreeRunner, instead of learning about
> human
> > biology and/or nutrition, which will affect me every day of my life, and
> at
> > least trying to live away from my parents.  When I say I play with my
> > computers, I do not mean gaming:  I almost never play games anymore.
> Even
> > when I decide I want to play a game again, I spend all of my time reading
> > about games, viewing screenshots and videos, and trying to decide which
> of
> > the endless games I should play (or rather, obtain if I do not already
> have
> > a copy and make work on my PC) instead of actually playing a game.  I
> feel
> > like I am always overwhelmed and/or overloaded with information and
> > stimulation in the Too Much Information Age.  I always feel like the NET
> > Effect is that there is Never Enough Time because time flies faster than
> > ever because I am always overthinking, overwhelmed with overchoice, etc.
> I
> > recognise my mind is a word and pattern recognition engine, which is
> > constantly adding new stimulations/experiences to its database.  I have
> > Asperger’s Syndrome, but can function much better, at least in terms of
> > interacting with people in person, than when I was in high school, for
> > example.  I used to often feel like I had social anxiety disorder because
> I
> > would get so anxious and/or worried even when calling someone on the
> phone
> > (on my parents’s landline because I did not have a cell phone until 2008)
> > that I could not speak clearly enough for the person on the other end to
> > understand me, so I would always have to repeat myself at least once for
> > every turn of the conversation.  I am a purist and have been called the
> most
> > pedantic person in the world by Jamie Zawinski, of Lucid Emacs/XEmacs and
> > Netscape/Mozilla fame. :)  Imprecise usage and redundancy bothers me even
> if
> > know what is meant from the context.  For example, I am bothered by
> people
> > mentioning a “standard” transmission in a vehicle (it is a manual
> > transmission.  Standard depends on the vehicle.  Automatic is standard
> for
> > some vehicles.), calling an LCD monitor (a flat panel) a “flat screen”
> > (high-end CRTs have flat glass too!), common redundancies, such as PIN
> > number, ATM machine, LCD display, people who assume all cars use crappy
> > gasoline engines and use fuel-specific terms, such as gas station (it is
> a
> > service station), gas tank (it is a fuel tank), gas pedal (it is an
> > accellerator), gas pump (I have used a diesel pump at Shell that told me
> to
> > “select octane” instead of “select ctane” (sp?) or “select fuel grade”.
> My
> > car has a diesel, not gasoline, engine.  I have been highly influenced by
> my
> > father, Brian Empey.  Brian is a Professional Engineer (Electrical
> > Engineering).  He founded Technical Solutions Inc. (Techsol) in 1996 with
> > his second wife (my step-mom), Karen Empey (nee Schellenberg).  Techsol
> is
> > an embedded computer hardware company specialising in Linux on ARM
> > architecture.  I am very fortunate to be able to work at Techsol.  I am a
> > Linux + Windows System Administrator/Web master/IT person/general
> computer
> > person.  I think my responsibiles are more important than my title(s).  I
> > know I am very dependent on my parents, but at least I own my own car
> (which
> > I bought from my dad), have a Class 7 driver’s licence (the Novice stage
> of
> > the Graduated Licensing Program in British Columbia, Canada.  I live in
> the
> > Lower Mainland of British Columbia, Canada), my own credit union account,
> > debit (Interac) card, MasterCard credit card, personal cheques (not
> > checks!), which I almost never use (I think I have written a total of 3
> > cheques in my life), cell phones (Nokia 6103b + FreeRunner), PayPal
> account,
> > domain names (brolin.be + others), Virtual Private Server (VPS), which
> hosts
> > my personal Web site, PCs and peripherals, far too many original/boxed PC
> > games, which I almost never play anymore, bicycle, ... I am definitely a
> > relatively rich/wealthy person in Canada and extremely wealthy compared
> to
> > less fortunate people in both developed and developing countries.  I know
> I
> > should not complain because I am very fortunate;  I know my life could
> > always be much worse, even if I lack much first-hand experience of how
> much
> > worse it could be.
> >
> > Anyway, enough rambling.  I need to finally address the Subject of this
> > message (I hope at least 1 person actually read this far!).  How/where
> can I
> > meet a female companion in person with similar interests and personality?
> > Someone who can appreciate my word associations, puns, sexual innuendo,
> > jokes, purism, etc.?  Someone who can relate to and understand the
> computer
> > humour in xkcd comics (I do not understand a lot of the math used in
> xkcd,
> > but I still know relatively more about math than non-technical people
> > because of my interest in computing and computer programming), someone
> who
> > analyses everything as much as I do, someone who is interested by books
> such
> > as Consciousness Explained by Daniel C. Dennet, (personal) computing
> > history, computer art scenes such as the demoscene, The Scene (warez
> groups,
> > etc.  even though I no longer use much unlicensed software because I
> prefer
> > to support Free Software projects instead of using unlicensed proprietary
> > software), computer music (module music, chiptunes).
> >
> > I have a tendency to isolate myself from face-to-face contact with my
> peers,
> > even though I know meeting people requires being in the same place as
> them.
> > I have few friends (well, at least peers) I know in person.  I choose to
> > spend most of my free time at home, either alone or with my parents,
> instead
> > of trying to meet new people in person.  I am too shy and self-conscious
> in
> > public.
> >
> > Can anyone relate to me?  What should I do?  I know I have volunteered a
> lot
> > of personal information in this post, but much of it is already publicly
> > accessible for those who know my real/legal name and know how to use
> tools
> > such as Google Search.  I have been considering writing a post like this
> for
> > months (maybe already >1 year), but I ended up stopping writing early
> > because I felt uncomfortable about volunteering so much personal
> > information.  What do I have to lose, though?  I need to stop being so
> > self-conscious.
> >
> > Why are most of the peers with whom I can relate well male?  Do females
> have
> > the same problem?  Are there even any females reading this? :)
> >
> > Thank you for reading this far!
> >
> > Brolin :)
> >
> > PS:  As you can probably tell, I prefer to write properly (with correct
> > grammar, spelling, punctuation, capitalisation, typographical quotation
> > marks and em dashes instead of ASCII typewriter quotation marks and ASCII
> > approximations of em dashes, etc.), even in informal contexts and for
> SMS.
> > I also prefer to say SMS instead of “text message”, but you could
> probably
> > have guessed that from my previous examples of my purism.  I also prefer
> > logical, simple, and unambiguous ISO 8601 (e.g., today is 2009-09-10
> 13:37
> > ;)) international standard date and time notation, especially instead of
> the
> > illogical 12h time notation, which many people insist on using in fuzzy
> > and/or ambiguous ways, such as “quarter to one” instead of “12:45”
> (24h).  I
> > know HH:MM (00:00 – 23:59) can be interpreted as ambiguous 12h when the
> hour
> > is <= 12, but I do not like to use HHMM (without the separator (the
> colon))
> > because I prefer to separate the components of the time of day.  I
> > originally used an ASCII minus character (‘-’) as a range separator, but
> I
> > decided I should use gucharmap to copy and paste a proper en dash because
> > otherwise I would be hypocritical for using proper em dashes but using an
> > ASCII approximation instead of a proper en dash because I am too lazy to
> use
> > gucharmap. (fail)
> >
> > PPS: As you may have noticed, I use the same convention as the C
> programming
> > language for usage of single and double quotation marks.  C uses only
> ASCII
> > characters, though;  I use both ASCII and Unicode (yes, I know Unicode
> > includes ASCII) for e.g., typographical quotation marks and dashes.
> >
> > PPPS: I also highly prefer communities such as this mailing list, where
> > posters use their real/legal names and are consequently accountable for
> > their actions (messages) and write properly instead of e.g., Web bulletin
> > boards frequented by the ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), “tl; dr” (“too
> > long; didn’t read”) crowd, most of whom use nicknames instead of their
> > real/legal names.
> >
> > --
> > Sometimes I forget how to do small talk: <http://xkcd.com/222/>
> >
> > “If you have to ask why, you’re not a member of the intended audience.” —
> > Bob Zimbinski, <http://webpages.mr.net/bobz/ttyquake/>
> >
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Michael Fisher
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