OT: Where can I meet a female companion with similar interests and personality /in person/?

Iain B. Findleton ifindleton at videotron.ca
Sat Sep 12 01:56:29 CEST 2009


This site is completely free, worldwide, but mainly english speaking.
Lots of fish of all ages and locations...

http://www.plentyoffish.com/

Jeff Sadowski wrote:
> Too long a read. If your looking for a mate may I suggest okcupid.com
> I had quite a few dates off the site and it was free. I never found
> "the one" off that site but I could get maybe a date a week off the
> site and it was a lot of fun. I found my final date through a close
> personal friend just a months ago and this is the ideal way to meet
> someone. Learning to dance goes a long ways with most ladies and is a
> lot of fun. It could also be a way to meet someone I had been dancing
> for 3 years and gone on a couple dates that I met while dancing. The
> magic words I found to get a date where somewhere along the lines
> Dinner on me and I invited them on a dinner date stating I have more
> fun meeting them in person and that body language speaks a lot. :-)
> Good luck
>
> On Thu, Sep 10, 2009 at 2:12 PM, Brolin Empey <brolin at brolin.be> wrote:
>   
>> Hello list,
>>
>> Like most of the members of this list (AFAICT from the first names I
>> recognise as sex/gender-specific), I am male.  I am 22 and still live with
>> my parents.  I have never lived away from my parents.  I am planning to hire
>> a support worker to help me live away from my parents (I have another
>> meeting later today) because I continue to indefinitely defer trying to live
>> away from my parents.  I named my form of procrastination “priority
>> inversion” because what is, in practical terms, my lowest priority, becomes
>> my highest priority.  For example, I choose to spend my free time playing
>> with my computers, including my FreeRunner, instead of learning about human
>> biology and/or nutrition, which will affect me every day of my life, and at
>> least trying to live away from my parents.  When I say I play with my
>> computers, I do not mean gaming:  I almost never play games anymore.  Even
>> when I decide I want to play a game again, I spend all of my time reading
>> about games, viewing screenshots and videos, and trying to decide which of
>> the endless games I should play (or rather, obtain if I do not already have
>> a copy and make work on my PC) instead of actually playing a game.  I feel
>> like I am always overwhelmed and/or overloaded with information and
>> stimulation in the Too Much Information Age.  I always feel like the NET
>> Effect is that there is Never Enough Time because time flies faster than
>> ever because I am always overthinking, overwhelmed with overchoice, etc.  I
>> recognise my mind is a word and pattern recognition engine, which is
>> constantly adding new stimulations/experiences to its database.  I have
>> Asperger’s Syndrome, but can function much better, at least in terms of
>> interacting with people in person, than when I was in high school, for
>> example.  I used to often feel like I had social anxiety disorder because I
>> would get so anxious and/or worried even when calling someone on the phone
>> (on my parents’s landline because I did not have a cell phone until 2008)
>> that I could not speak clearly enough for the person on the other end to
>> understand me, so I would always have to repeat myself at least once for
>> every turn of the conversation.  I am a purist and have been called the most
>> pedantic person in the world by Jamie Zawinski, of Lucid Emacs/XEmacs and
>> Netscape/Mozilla fame. :)  Imprecise usage and redundancy bothers me even if
>> know what is meant from the context.  For example, I am bothered by people
>> mentioning a “standard” transmission in a vehicle (it is a manual
>> transmission.  Standard depends on the vehicle.  Automatic is standard for
>> some vehicles.), calling an LCD monitor (a flat panel) a “flat screen”
>> (high-end CRTs have flat glass too!), common redundancies, such as PIN
>> number, ATM machine, LCD display, people who assume all cars use crappy
>> gasoline engines and use fuel-specific terms, such as gas station (it is a
>> service station), gas tank (it is a fuel tank), gas pedal (it is an
>> accellerator), gas pump (I have used a diesel pump at Shell that told me to
>> “select octane” instead of “select ctane” (sp?) or “select fuel grade”.  My
>> car has a diesel, not gasoline, engine.  I have been highly influenced by my
>> father, Brian Empey.  Brian is a Professional Engineer (Electrical
>> Engineering).  He founded Technical Solutions Inc. (Techsol) in 1996 with
>> his second wife (my step-mom), Karen Empey (nee Schellenberg).  Techsol is
>> an embedded computer hardware company specialising in Linux on ARM
>> architecture.  I am very fortunate to be able to work at Techsol.  I am a
>> Linux + Windows System Administrator/Web master/IT person/general computer
>> person.  I think my responsibiles are more important than my title(s).  I
>> know I am very dependent on my parents, but at least I own my own car (which
>> I bought from my dad), have a Class 7 driver’s licence (the Novice stage of
>> the Graduated Licensing Program in British Columbia, Canada.  I live in the
>> Lower Mainland of British Columbia, Canada), my own credit union account,
>> debit (Interac) card, MasterCard credit card, personal cheques (not
>> checks!), which I almost never use (I think I have written a total of 3
>> cheques in my life), cell phones (Nokia 6103b + FreeRunner), PayPal account,
>> domain names (brolin.be + others), Virtual Private Server (VPS), which hosts
>> my personal Web site, PCs and peripherals, far too many original/boxed PC
>> games, which I almost never play anymore, bicycle, ... I am definitely a
>> relatively rich/wealthy person in Canada and extremely wealthy compared to
>> less fortunate people in both developed and developing countries.  I know I
>> should not complain because I am very fortunate;  I know my life could
>> always be much worse, even if I lack much first-hand experience of how much
>> worse it could be.
>>
>> Anyway, enough rambling.  I need to finally address the Subject of this
>> message (I hope at least 1 person actually read this far!).  How/where can I
>> meet a female companion in person with similar interests and personality?
>> Someone who can appreciate my word associations, puns, sexual innuendo,
>> jokes, purism, etc.?  Someone who can relate to and understand the computer
>> humour in xkcd comics (I do not understand a lot of the math used in xkcd,
>> but I still know relatively more about math than non-technical people
>> because of my interest in computing and computer programming), someone who
>> analyses everything as much as I do, someone who is interested by books such
>> as Consciousness Explained by Daniel C. Dennet, (personal) computing
>> history, computer art scenes such as the demoscene, The Scene (warez groups,
>> etc.  even though I no longer use much unlicensed software because I prefer
>> to support Free Software projects instead of using unlicensed proprietary
>> software), computer music (module music, chiptunes).
>>
>> I have a tendency to isolate myself from face-to-face contact with my peers,
>> even though I know meeting people requires being in the same place as them.
>> I have few friends (well, at least peers) I know in person.  I choose to
>> spend most of my free time at home, either alone or with my parents, instead
>> of trying to meet new people in person.  I am too shy and self-conscious in
>> public.
>>
>> Can anyone relate to me?  What should I do?  I know I have volunteered a lot
>> of personal information in this post, but much of it is already publicly
>> accessible for those who know my real/legal name and know how to use tools
>> such as Google Search.  I have been considering writing a post like this for
>> months (maybe already >1 year), but I ended up stopping writing early
>> because I felt uncomfortable about volunteering so much personal
>> information.  What do I have to lose, though?  I need to stop being so
>> self-conscious.
>>
>> Why are most of the peers with whom I can relate well male?  Do females have
>> the same problem?  Are there even any females reading this? :)
>>
>> Thank you for reading this far!
>>
>> Brolin :)
>>
>> PS:  As you can probably tell, I prefer to write properly (with correct
>> grammar, spelling, punctuation, capitalisation, typographical quotation
>> marks and em dashes instead of ASCII typewriter quotation marks and ASCII
>> approximations of em dashes, etc.), even in informal contexts and for SMS.
>> I also prefer to say SMS instead of “text message”, but you could probably
>> have guessed that from my previous examples of my purism.  I also prefer
>> logical, simple, and unambiguous ISO 8601 (e.g., today is 2009-09-10 13:37
>> ;)) international standard date and time notation, especially instead of the
>> illogical 12h time notation, which many people insist on using in fuzzy
>> and/or ambiguous ways, such as “quarter to one” instead of “12:45” (24h).  I
>> know HH:MM (00:00 – 23:59) can be interpreted as ambiguous 12h when the hour
>> is <= 12, but I do not like to use HHMM (without the separator (the colon))
>> because I prefer to separate the components of the time of day.  I
>> originally used an ASCII minus character (‘-’) as a range separator, but I
>> decided I should use gucharmap to copy and paste a proper en dash because
>> otherwise I would be hypocritical for using proper em dashes but using an
>> ASCII approximation instead of a proper en dash because I am too lazy to use
>> gucharmap. (fail)
>>
>> PPS: As you may have noticed, I use the same convention as the C programming
>> language for usage of single and double quotation marks.  C uses only ASCII
>> characters, though;  I use both ASCII and Unicode (yes, I know Unicode
>> includes ASCII) for e.g., typographical quotation marks and dashes.
>>
>> PPPS: I also highly prefer communities such as this mailing list, where
>> posters use their real/legal names and are consequently accountable for
>> their actions (messages) and write properly instead of e.g., Web bulletin
>> boards frequented by the ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), “tl; dr” (“too
>> long; didn’t read”) crowd, most of whom use nicknames instead of their
>> real/legal names.
>>
>> --
>> Sometimes I forget how to do small talk: <http://xkcd.com/222/>
>>
>> “If you have to ask why, you’re not a member of the intended audience.” —
>> Bob Zimbinski, <http://webpages.mr.net/bobz/ttyquake/>
>>
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